Third Sex , Transvestites or Gay

Basic human right is that one should be free to live as one wants to.
According to George Bernard Shaw, * Your freedom ends where my nose begins * that implies that everybody is free to do as they please  as long as they are not harming others and are not doing anything that’s illegal.
Pakistani society is full of prejudice ,its  conservative yet its liberal in quiet a few things however this article is going to be about the fact that why people who belong to a third sex ,those who are known as transvestites or those who chose to become one are looked down upon by the society as being  divested of human qualities.

There was an incident in which a girl had changed her sex in order to marry her best friend perhaps due to the fact that her friend was not getting good proposals. That was her personal choice but the Pakistani media and society made a brouhaha out of it and the court arrested them and punished them. Never been a court has been so efficient in arresting the criminals and punishing them. Nobody followed the story that what happened afterwards.

The Transvestites are not given job opportunities & they are not even hired as domestic labour because of their gender, those belonging to lower middle class are trapped in vicious cycle of dancing over weddings & in the URS.

However, the paradox is evident when in the media, fashion people openly declare themselves as gay and those who are not  one , declare themselves  to gain attention.

These poor souls are publicly made mock of  and there seems to be no option left to them but to stick to what ever acts they are doing like begging from people & bad mouthing due to the callous and rude behaviors of  the common people towards them .

I would like to draw attention to the fact that there is also some responsibility lies with the transvestites guru as they exploit their students and made them to do such shameless acts and take undue advantage of their vulnerability. The laws and the law enforcement agencies are no good here as they also take out their frustration on the poor people. The most horrifying fact is that these people bury their dead ones after mid night due to the backlash of the people. Nobody questions that where in Islam it is there that those people who are born with a biological complication should be treated in such a way.

Its time that we should try to be sensitive towards people who are a little different from us and try to understand them and help them in whatever we can do .As, its not but its God’s will that they are there dangling between the clear demarcation of male and female. So, we should be tolerant and humble towards everyone specially those who are helpless and needs to be understood.

 One of the thing that is horrifying is the fact that there is no awareness in the fact that if a  kid is born with a vital sex organ that is of micro size or the outer layer is deceptive then there is no effort to gather the data & physical evidence of the child & direct it towards the right source not only it happens in the poor segments of the society even the middle class & the rich people find it shameful if anybody would know that they had an operation of there baby to change the sex , mind you its not an operation of sex change it is about correcting the birth defect

Previously if any guy used to go to saloon they would have been labeled as developing girls habbit & would be ridiculed in the friends gathering .However  with the passage of time & the increase in the awareness , thank God guys are particular about maintaining themselves & are regular about their saloon appointments  and why should not they be its their basic right as a human being to have access to the beauty products even in clothing range companies have begin to  offer Pink color for guys  that was once considered the domain of girls .However even now some people consider it  a Gay color .

I have read it somewhere there that every girl has a guy in her & every guy has got a girl in her but if there is any imbalance then they attain the attributes of a third sex however in our society if any guy is seen crying due to physical injury or he is upset then its considered he doesn’t have courage and is behaving as a girl & if any girl is seen changing the bulb or driving on her own then she is very tom boyish and considered devoid of feminine qualities 

And I think this is the problem with our people that they are not happy in any way they ridicule people who are a bit different to them & make fun of them more because they think they are much more talented & worthy  themselves. How can anybody understand the pain & agony of the people who does not belong to either MALE OR FEMALE SEX!

How can they understand the hell they are going on in their daily life because they are not comfortable in their own life with their own physical image & due to the lack of awareness they could not  get themselves treated in the early life & once they become adults & would do an operation than they would be labeled as going out against nature & labeled as a KAFIR

Alas! Life is a continuously excruciating torture for them. I wish if we people can educate ourselves in the real way and  stop believing  the rubbish things of the traditional and  fanatic mullah’s , try to sift matters through a logical eye and learn to love people, accept them the way they are.

One a last note ,

 Once my cousin who has ANGLO SEXIAN look was riding a bike a Transvestite came up to him & pinched  him on his hand and blew him a kiss & said  * HEY BOY WHERE R U GOING * and even  sang a song for  him  * GORAY GORAY MUKHRAY PAY KALA KALA CHASMA *  as he was wearing black sunglasses, from that day onwards he is so afraid of them that even mentioning there presence scares him